I’ve been on the embarrassing end of jokes and awkward conversations about my size many times. And yeah it stings but I try not to let in that it does. I know I’m small and already super self conscious. So when attention is drawn to it, it makes me feel worse.
Finding Out that a Male Friend is Small?
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Do you feel like you can't speak out when you are insulted? What would you say, if you could, in that situation? Would it help if other guys told the one insulting you to knock it off?
My guess is that a vast majority of women really don't care about size but I think there is generally a limit. My wife is DEFINITELY not a size queen. She has mentioned that she thinks I have a large dick, but it was never a compliment, more of just stating a fact. If anything, she has wished I were smaller. However, I was REALLY surprised when she told me that she does have a limit on how small she'd be interested in. I don't remember if she gave an actual size but she did have a limit. I also am sure there is an upper limit and based on what she's said I probably exceed it. She knew how big I was when we got married and her solution is apparently to avoid intercourse at all cost. I got the impression that if the guy was too small she might literally stop dating him.
So why did she not dump me if my size wasn't conducive? First of all, she was a virgin when we married so maybe it was a bit more difficult than expected. Second, I wonder if there is a psychological effect. I wonder if being married to a husband with a too large dick is psychologically very different from too small. Both might make intercourse less pleasurable but perhaps one makes you feel less of your husband. My wife is very reticent to talk about this stuff so I don't really know what her thinking is.
I found out that one of my dearest friends is small, and was very embarrassed for his sake. Didn't actually see him naked, but I borrowed a suitcase from him and he'd left some condoms in it. I've never even hinted that I know this and never would, and I feel bad for him. He's short and scrawny and had major health problems his whole life; he and his wife took many years to get pregnant. At the same time he is the most generous, kind-hearted, loud, self-confident guy I know. A natural leader. "Short Guy Compensation Syndrome" but without the asshole parts. He got laid younger than me and earns more $ than me. With the right attitude size really is not everything.
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How does one have that attitude when so many guys have already been shamed and taught that size is everything?
Question for you directly: why do you feel embarassed for him? Do you think small penis is embarrassing? That's part of the problem here. Big guys always say it's not about size but then they say small is embarrassing and they would never swap places. What would say if someone told you your size was embarrassing. Would you like to be the target of your own shaming?
Better yet, what if your "dearest friend" heard you say these things about his size? Are you sure he's a dear friend if you're shaming him like that?
Ridiculous question, there is clearly no "shaming" when I made it very clear I have not and would not tell him I know. If the conversations of this board were held face-to-face, practically every guy here would be arrested for obscenity and/or sued for sexual harassment. If you can grasp why one set of outcomes isn't happening maybe you can grasp the same for the other.
Suddenly learning that you have more of something good than a close dear friend can make you feel awkward about it and hope that it doesn't come up in an open conversation.
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You used the words "embarassed for his sake" as if he should be embarassed. Why should he be embarassed? You said you felt bad for him and eager to hear why.
The question about whether a wife or girlfriend thinks less of a man due to his size, could be posed in the Ask a woman forum. I think large cocks are interesting to women looking for a one nighter or non serious fling, but when it comes down to serious relationships or marriage, they fall in love with the guy and don't think less of him if he is on the small side. It would be interesting to hear women's actual thoughts, although they might give the size doesn't matter response and think of it as shallow to value their man based on his penis.
Maybe since your wife was a virgin she hadn't seen many, if any, other penises before meeting you. She may not have fully realized how it is taking a larger penis.
I think that more women than not start to care when a penis is well outside the statistical average.
My wife had seen other penises but all the other men had been Chinese. She had fooled around but never lost her virginity.
I don't understand how you know his dick is small just from seeing his condoms. Were they a small size or a regular size? Just because he isn't using Magnums doesn't mean he is small. He could be average.
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I learned a friend of mine was small down there after his ex-girlfriend told a mutual friend of ours (who then told me). I took the info with a grain of salt because you can never trust the words of a bitter ex-girlfriend. A few years later, my friend and I decided to go to a Korean spa together. It was my first time so I was really nervous, but I figured at least I probably wasn't going to be dwarfed by my friend. Sure enough, the rumor was true. It didn't change our dynamic at all. We even went back a few more times before he had kids.
TBH the guys isn't as small as me, but i was in the locker room after the gym with a coworker and he was doing the towl dance, which is always a giveaway a guy is small, anyway the towl fell and he had like a nub lol. Honestly it was disgusting lol. I honestly lost all respect for him at that moment and chuckled to myself. He doesn't know my size but prob assumes i'm bigger and now I basically boss him around at work. He just looks down at the floor when i tell him to do things now that i know he has a tiny dick. On the other hand, saw a different co-worker totally confident showing it off and towling off in the locker room. He wasn't huge, but at least he was proud of it. I have a lot more respect for him.
back when i played football (soccer for se americans), seeyour teammates aked was a given. we had 3 guys who had really small dicks. one of them was and is my best friend.
nothing changed, we've since become even better friends due to some circumstances in our lifes, but everytime he pulls a girlz i cant help but think that shes gonna have one hell of a surprise when they get it on haha.
but id never judge a guy on his dicksize or let that change our friendship.
unless i already find them to be idiots and hateful human beings.
nothing changed, we've since become even better friends due to some circumstances in our lifes, but everytime he pulls a girlz i cant help but think that shes gonna have one hell of a surprise when they get it on haha.
but id never judge a guy on his dicksize or let that change our friendship.
unless i already find them to be idiots and hateful human beings.
Remarks about another man being small is just cruel. None of us did a thing to have a big dick. No more than if you're handsome or tall. Anyone who mentions to another man that he is small is not doing it to build up the other man. He's doing it to put him down. Personally, I could never bring myself to tell another man he's small
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Might as well call him ugly, same result. Just tearing him down for no reason
We are 6 best friends from our teenage years. Over the years, we have watched porn together, seen each other naked, and discussed many things related to sex. One of the friend is much smaller and thinner. He knows it and owes up to it. We make fun of it but he takes it well. Years ago when he was getting married, he asked me to get him a cock ring to make it look bigger. Then this past summer he had me get him a pump which he said has helped in making his cock thicker but not bigger. We all are great friends and nothing about our friendship has or will change because of his size. He is married with a child so he knows how to use it.
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Can he not buy his own cock ring and pump? Just curious as to why he would ask you
He asked me to buy the cock ring for him because he knew I had bought couple of them for few while in college and he didn't really know what kind he should purchase. My friends have been more sheltered than me.
For the pump he could have bought his own after we looked through them but he and his wife share a credit card and she checks everything on it. He said, he didn't have another credit card so I ordered it for him, had it delivered to my house then gave it to him once it arrived.