Finding Out that a Male Friend is Small?

[Perfectsix]

Being heavily involved in the running of our naturist club I often find myself adopting the alpha role amongst groups of men, all of them bigger than my beta cock.
They all accept the situation though

 

[glennb]

I've enjoyed the other thread that discusses learning that a friend of yours is hung. How about the opposite? Same questions but you learned the friend is small.

"How did you find out? Do you see him any differently to how you saw him before? What if you were the friend in question? Have the relationship dynamics changed?" In addition: Are you well hung? Did he know?

I had the weirdest situation happen decades ago. I was driving with a fellow from work (I worked at a theater). I don't even remember why we were driving together because we were just coworkers and not friends. He was a tall, good looking guy and from out of nowhere he confessed to me that he has a very small penis. I had no idea how to react. I found it absolutely bizarre for him to confess this to ME and I was probably like, sorry to hear that. I'm not a tall guy so maybe he thought I might be in the same boat as him.

He never mentioned it again and I tried to figure out why he would tell me this. I considered that maybe he was trying to bait me into confessing something but he never came off as a nasty guy who might do something like that. It was interesting that he had a female friend who also worked there. She was a decent looking girl next door kind of girl and she told me that she had been way heavier when she was younger (this was true). She said that after she lost the weight her breasts became very saggy and she essentially rolled them up like socks into her bra. I can only assume this was very much an exaggeration but that was definitely an image that stuck in my head. I guess maybe that two of them are just into confessions.

 

[Perfectsix]

I have occasionally had difficulty maintaining the manager / team member dynamic in work when they have seen me naked after five a side...I had to point out that whilst poking fun at me is acceptable in the changing room, a professional relationship has to be maintained in the office.

Rumours about my size still spread amongst the non footballers unfortunately

 

[Buddie]

When I was in my 20's, a buddy and I were racing Motocross on the West Coast circuit. I had know him since we were teenagers and we grew up racing together. One season we were driving my van from race to race and planning to sleep in the van. I had never seen him naked before. The first night we threw down our sleeping bags inside the van and starting undressing. When he was completely undressed I saw his penis was completely hard and sticking straight out. The outstanding thing was that his penis was the size of my thumb! Same length. Same circumference. Granted, I have large hands but still it was the smallest penis I had ever seen. I didn't know a penis could even be that small.

Our relationship never changed, but ever since then whenever I saw him all I thought about how small his penis was. A few years later he got married and I couldn't help but think that penetrative sex wouldn't even be possible for them. However, they ended up having two children so I guess they worked it out.

Years ago, I saw a guy I was casual friends with at the urinal. He takes out a penis that was 1.5-2 inches if that. Another friend was in the bathroom and pointed out how small the guy's penis was and if I saw it. He asked if it grew big when hard and the guy gave a nervous laugh and a shy look meaning no it didn't grow much.

I don't know why I expected a bigger penis when looks and status have nothing to do with size. He was a fit, blonde haired football player, and a good looking guy who was well-liked.

It didn't change the friendship, because why would it. I did wonder if the girls he got with had the same surprise, though.

Even tall good built have a small penis very rare then you find a guy a little shorter than him that will be hung as a horse

 

[0Pippo]

yes, I had a close friend, with a very nice fit body, he told me that he had a short dick with no problem, and when I saw it it was really small, smaller then mine that is small. but nice, and he never had a single problem, now married with some children and a happy wife. Oh, for me nothing changed, always good friends, it meant that size does not matter so much. Btw, he got also a very nice ass

 

[diggita]

rather than having anyone be surprised by how small I am( especially when soft) I often give them a heads up before hand if I know they are going to see me naked. That said that’s not always the case and there have been times I’ve gotten looks from others. It could be my small soft cock size or perhaps my overly large belly
This is what they might see .

 

[nhguy78]

Being heavily involved in the running of our naturist club I often find myself adopting the alpha role amongst groups of men, all of them bigger than my beta cock.
They all accept the situation though

If you're the leader, you will never be beta. You're the big brother. The shepherd.

 

[nhguy78]

For the hung guys replying, the ones I've read so far seem to emotionally profit off of being the hung one. Do you ever turn around and give back some of that confidence to your unhung brothers? Or do you let them possibly stew and you keep all that BDE to yourself?

 

[deleted15455021]

When I was in my 20's, a buddy and I were racing Motocross on the West Coast circuit. I had know him since we were teenagers and we grew up racing together. One season we were driving my van from race to race and planning to sleep in the van. I had never seen him naked before. The first night we threw down our sleeping bags inside the van and starting undressing. When he was completely undressed I saw his penis was completely hard and sticking straight out. The outstanding thing was that his penis was the size of my thumb! Same length. Same circumference. Granted, I have large hands but still it was the smallest penis I had ever seen. I didn't know a penis could even be that small.

Our relationship never changed, but ever since then whenever I saw him all I thought about how small his penis was. A few years later he got married and I couldn't help but think that penetrative sex wouldn't even be possible for them. However, they ended up having two children so I guess they worked it out.

Haha!

 

[Stephenmass]

My opinion of my male friends never changes because of the size of their genitals. I don't even think about it, even if I have seen them naked. My opinion of my male friends does change tho if they are, in fact, an asshole or something like that. I can't stand arrogance for instance; I love confidence. I'd write someone off for arrogance, never confidence. I can't stand rudeness, no manners, being obnoxious, or whatever. I could give two shits the size of their cock. It just doesn't matter in my choice of friends whatsoever.

 

[AllDixNeedLuv69]

if a guys cock with it being small turns you off when see it or touch it--thats kind of shallow--i am around 7 to 7 1/2 cut and would never turn away a guy because his dick is so much smaller--i would suck it and let him fuck me with it proving his dick is just as fun to be with than bigger one

that would be like meeting a guy with 9 to 10 inches and when he sees you only have 7 inches he gets turned off by your cock because it is smaller than his--

think about it that way

 

[Stephenmass]

if a guys cock with it being small turns you off when see it or touch it--thats kind of shallow--i am around 7 to 7 1/2 cut and would never turn away a guy because his dick is so much smaller--i would suck it and let him fuck me with it proving his dick is just as fun to be with than bigger one

that would be like meeting a guy with 9 to 10 inches and when he sees you only have 7 inches he gets turned off by your cock because it is smaller than his--

think about it that way

Between two men, generally one will always be smaller than the other. I agree with you. Even if it's not two larger cocks, say one much larger than the other, who cares? If I enjoy his company and is into me and I'm into him, it wouldn't bother me whatsoever.

 

[glennb]

I've enjoyed the other thread that discusses learning that a friend of yours is hung. How about the opposite? Same questions but you learned the friend is small.

"How did you find out? Do you see him any differently to how you saw him before? What if you were the friend in question? Have the relationship dynamics changed?" In addition: Are you well hung? Did he know?

I didn't discover a friend was small but I did discover that a friend who claimed to be large was very average. For many years I saw him as the friend with the big dick but then I saw him as someone who bordered on a bit sad. It wasn't sad that his dick is average, that's perfectly fine, it's sad that he felt the need to strangely overcompensate. I wondered why he felt the need to put up the facade and quite frankly continues to do it even after being discovered. My guess is that it's more of a self delusion than out and out lying.

If I was his size I hope I'd be fine with it since he's probably average length with above average girth. I wouldn't say the dynamics of our friendship have changed and even if I discovered he had a tiny penis I don't think they would change.

I'll let other people judge if I'm well hung. I wouldn't say I'm small.

 

[AllDixNeedLuv69]

I didn't discover a friend was small but I did discover that a friend who claimed to be large was very average. For many years I saw him as the friend with the big dick but then I saw him as someone who bordered on a bit sad. It wasn't sad that his dick is average, that's perfectly fine, it's sad that he felt the need to strangely overcompensate. I wondered why he felt the need to put up the facade and quite frankly continues to do it even after being discovered. My guess is that it's more of a self delusion than out and out lying.

If I was his size I hope I'd be fine with it since he's probably average length with above average girth. I wouldn't say the dynamics of our friendship have changed and even if I discovered he had a tiny penis I don't think they would change.

I'll let other people judge if I'm well hung. I wouldn't say I'm small.

if thats your cock pic in photos--it looks little above average and nice thickness---does it get used as much as you want?>sucked on and fucking?

 

[nhguy78]

Years ago, I saw a guy I was casual friends with at the urinal. He takes out a penis that was 1.5-2 inches if that. Another friend was in the bathroom and pointed out how small the guy's penis was and if I saw it. He asked if it grew big when hard and the guy gave a nervous laugh and a shy look meaning no it didn't grow much.

I don't know why I expected a bigger penis when looks and status have nothing to do with size. He was a fit, blonde haired football player, and a good looking guy who was well-liked.

It didn't change the friendship, because why would it. I did wonder if the girls he got with had the same surprise, though.

So, given the original post, what would you do if you were confronted if you were the smaller guy? How would you feel for someome to make comments? Do you think those comments make guys feel inadequate or self conscious - especially if no one stood up for you?

 

[Longwood8]

So, given the original post, what would you do if you were confronted if you were the smaller guy? How would you feel for someome to make comments? Do you think those comments make guys feel inadequate or self conscious - especially if no one stood up for you?

We were all friends somewhat, so that took the edge off of that comment being too malicious.

I'd feel a bit self conscious and inadequate if I were him, but I'd probably respond with a Shut up, followed by a joke towards him about size. I wouldn't expect someone to defend me over that. I'd want to make my statement and be done with it and move on.

No one wants to be the small guy in the locker room, and negative comments can make some guys feel less positive of themselves. I've also seen some small guys I know joke about it, too, knowing it's not a big deal. Those instances, though, were guys confident in themselves in other ways, like sports. Personality also influences reactions, as in less confident guys will harp on that negative comment, whereas others might shrug it off, or joke about it, too, and move on.

 

[nhguy78]

We were all friends somewhat, so that took the edge off of that comment being too malicious.

I'd feel a bit self conscious and inadequate if I were him, but I'd probably respond with a Shut up, followed by a joke towards him about size. I wouldn't expect someone to defend me over that. I'd want to make my statement and be done with it and move on.

No one wants to be the small guy in the locker room, and negative comments can make some guys feel less positive of themselves. I've also seen some small guys I know joke about it, too, knowing it's not a big deal. Those instances, though, were guys confident in themselves in other ways, like sports. Personality also influences reactions, as in less confident guys will harp on that negative comment, whereas others might shrug it off, or joke about it, too, and move on.

Do you recognize that there could be many more situations of humiliation than of joking it off? I don't care about being the small guy in the room even though I'm not small but jokes can really cause invisible harm and distrust. Mental health is becoming increasingly important especially for guys who act roo brave to seek help.

 

[LilJock]

Years ago, I saw a guy I was casual friends with at the urinal. He takes out a penis that was 1.5-2 inches if that. Another friend was in the bathroom and pointed out how small the guy's penis was and if I saw it. He asked if it grew big when hard and the guy gave a nervous laugh and a shy look meaning no it didn't grow much.

I don't know why I expected a bigger penis when looks and status have nothing to do with size. He was a fit, blonde haired football player, and a good looking guy who was well-liked.

It didn't change the friendship, because why would it. I did wonder if the girls he got with had the same surprise, though.

I found the highlighted part really interesting -- matter-of-fact talk about the size of a guy's cock. Like the guy mentioned, despite being a tall, fit, good-looking football player, I'm hung like a chipmunk; when soft, my dick barely pokes out of my pubic hair. I've had guys in the locker room or girls after sex remark how small my dick was and ask how much did it grow, etc. When I was on weekend liberty in the Navy, I was showering in a public facility for service men, when, out of the blue, a fairly-well endowed marine started asking me questions about my size, even whether I could get a girl off.

It's kinda shocking when it happens. Most guys avoid talking about the size of another guy's cock -- especially if it's small -- but these exchanges didn't come across as intentional putdowns, SPH or the like. More like talking about the weather or the stock exchange. They seemed to arise from a limited ability to place one's self in another person's shoes and consider how what one's saying will affect others. A bit autistic maybe? Or maybe just a case of well-endowed men who've never experienced feelings of anxiety about the size of their cocks. I'm tall and good-looking; I'll admit I don't concern myself much with how it must feel to be short or ugly.

And it's not just men. I've had similar experiences with women. Once, during a FMF 3-way, the two chicks started matter-of-factly discussing my physical attributes, including the size of my dick, almost as if I weren't even present. Some women think "perfect honesty" is a cardinal virtue. I kinda enjoy this stuff but I think most guys wold prefer a bit more of the "size doesn't matter" bull shit.

 

[Longwood8]

I found the highlighted part really interesting -- matter-of-fact talk about the size of a guy's cock. Like the guy mentioned, despite being a tall, fit, good-looking football player, I'm hung like a chipmunk; when soft, my dick barely pokes out of my pubic hair. I've had guys in the locker room or girls after sex remark how small my dick was and ask how much did it grow, etc. When I was on weekend liberty in the Navy, I was showering in a public facility for service men, when, out of the blue, a fairly-well endowed marine started asking me questions about my size, even whether I could get a girl off.

It's kinda shocking when it happens. Most guys avoid talking about the size of another guy's cock -- especially if it's small -- but these exchanges didn't come across as intentional putdowns, SPH or the like. More like talking about the weather or the stock exchange. They seemed to arise from a limited ability to place one's self in another person's shoes and consider how what one's saying will affect others. A bit autistic maybe? Or maybe just a case of well-endowed men who've never experienced feelings of anxiety about the size of their cocks. I'm tall and good-looking; I'll admit I don't concern myself much with how it must feel to be short or ugly.

And it's not just men. I've had similar experiences with women. Once, during a FMF 3-way, the two chicks started matter-of-factly discussing my physical attributes, including the size of my dick, almost as if I weren't even present. Some women think "perfect honesty" is a cardinal virtue. I kinda enjoy this stuff but I think most guys wold prefer a bit more of the "size doesn't matter" bull shit.

Good post. Some people, with their natural curiousity over penis size, leave their manners at the door. Their responses of bewilderment over how small a penis can be, are not filtered to give a tactful reaction.

I'm close with my father and he has shared stories of how bad he was teased over his small size. He was also teased for having foreskin, but that's another topic. I was raised in a home where nudity was the norm, so we saw each other's daily. His soft looks like a button on him. No shaft visible, just the head covered by foreskin. He is also below average when erect. He enjoys nudity and at times goes between the feelings of being okay being nude around others, to covering up out of embarrassment. Those feelings of being teased come back. Depends on who else in the locker room is around. I understand a small guy's point of view better from knowing my dad's negative experiences.

Also like you've said, I've seen and been a part of conversations with guys over size where the talk was matter-of-fact. It was discussed and moved on from. Even if negative words or tones were not used, we don't know how the smaller guys felt in those conversations, since in those instances they gave matter-of-fact responses with no sign of feelings being hurt.

I do think it's interesting those women were so casual in talking about your penis while you were present. Some women say size doesn't matter, while others are size queens. I think some guys when they hear size doesn't matter, hear it as women saying that, but not meaning it.

 

[Longwood8]

Do you recognize that there could be many more situations of humiliation than of joking it off? I don't care about being the small guy in the room even though I'm not small but jokes can really cause invisible harm and distrust. Mental health is becoming increasingly important especially for guys who act roo brave to seek help.

Very true. Guys can give the it doesn't bother me reaction, while feeling hurt or embarrassed.