I Got scammed (public service notice!)

[theaveragedude]

Well, here's a warning for you all. If you are active on sniffies.com, be careful.

Let me start by saying I'm bi (well, gay at this point) something I realized late in life after getting married and having a family. Im not the position to out myself to anybody and I've messed around with guys. That being said, I started using the Sniffies website awhile back and today I was scammed and I was taken for $500, but that's just the start.
In my stupidity, I was chatting with someone but it didn't seem quite right, but I didn't think anything of it at first. He convinced me to use the WhatsApp to communicate and I took the bait and they got me. Now I'm on the hook for $100 a week for 3 months or they will out me to my family and friends. They have risqué pics and a chat. Let this be a warning to you all.

There's shitty people out there.

If the shit hits the fan I might have to make a drastic decision.

Yes I'm stupid. I wish I had listened to myself when I was in my early 20's and just accepted who I was and how I am, but I didn't, because I didn't think I'd be accepted my by friends at the time, and I couldn't face the truth.

I'm venting here because I have no where else to say this.

 

[wilmaster04]

Well, here's a warning for you all. If you are active on sniffies.com, be careful.

Let me start by saying I'm bi (well, gay at this point) something I realized late in life after getting married and having a family. Im not the position to out myself to anybody and I've messed around with guys. That being said, I started using the Sniffies website awhile back and today I was scammed and I was taken for $500, but that's just the start.
In my stupidity, I was chatting with someone but it didn't seem quite right, but I didn't think anything of it at first. He convinced me to use the WhatsApp to communicate and I took the bait and they got me. Now I'm on the hook for $100 a week for 3 months or they will out me to my family and friends. They have risqué pics and a chat. Let this be a warning to you all.

There's shitty people out there.

If the shit hits the fan I might have to make a drastic decision.

Yes I'm stupid. I wish I had listened to myself when I was in my early 20's and just accepted who I was and how I am, but I didn't, because I didn't think I'd be accepted my by friends at the time, and I couldn't face the truth.

I'm venting here because I have no where else to say this.

man i'm sorry! how do you know they wont just have you under their thumb indefinitely? its hard to trust people....being married really puts you in a bind. 1200 bucks is crazy tho. i dont think i would do it i would put my social media accounts to private just in case

 

[theaveragedude]

man i'm sorry! how do you know they wont just have you under their thumb indefinitely? its hard to trust people....being married really puts you in a bind. 1200 bucks is crazy tho. i dont think i would do it i would put my social media accounts to private just in case

Thank you for your kindness.

I can't talk to anyone about this. I'm actually distraught. They have some pics....I was stupid. It's all I can do to keep my composure around my family. The sword of Damocles is dangling over my head. If this all comes out:

1) I'll be divorced, homeless and most likely my kids, in-laws, will hate me there will be no family at all.

2) I'll be embarrassed to everyone I know.

3) I work as a musician and I also have a day job which will most likely end.

4) worst of all, Ive thought about ending it all, which is worrisome in itself (obviously)

I'm literally stuck in a nightmare.

I should've come to the truth about myself a long time ago.

 

[Crash1010]

Can I see your pics? I bet you're sexi!!!

 

[theaveragedude]

Can I see your pics? I bet you're sexi!!!

Um..... that's really not funny. These people say they will ruin my life. Im too old to move away and start over. Read my reply above.

 

[wilmaster04]

Thank you for your kindness.

I can't talk to anyone about this. I'm actually distraught. They have some pics....I was stupid. It's all I can do to keep my composure around my family. The sword of Damocles is dangling over my head. If this all comes out:

1) I'll be divorced, homeless and most likely my kids, in-laws, will hate me there will be no family at all.

2) I'll be embarrassed to everyone I know.

3) I work as a musician and I also have a day job which will most likely end.

4) worst of all, Ive thought about ending it all, which is worrisome in itself (obviously)

I'm literally stuck in a nightmare.

I should've come to the truth about myself a long time ago.

ending it will be terrible. your kids will love you regardless. i don't see why you would lose your jobs.

If anything tell your wife about your feelings ...either you can work it out or it ends in divorce...are your kids adults?

 

[theaveragedude]

ending it will be terrible. your kids will love you regardless. i don't see why you would lose your jobs.

If anything tell your wife about your feelings ...either you can work it out or it ends in divorce...are your kids adults?

Yea my kids are older. 19 and 20.

I don't think we can work it out, because I've broken the trust. And the fact that this person has some of my nudes pics plus one with my face is a major problem.

The level of embarrassment for my family is huge and I don't think I can't live with that consequence.

I'd advise them to change their last names and forget about me.

I have no huge savings And my wife owns the house (it's in her name) I'd be homeless.

 

[wilmaster04]

Yea my kids are older. 19 and 20.

I don't think we can work it out, because I've broken the trust. And the fact that this person has some of my nudes pics plus one with my face is a major problem.

The level of embarrassment for my family is huge and I don't think I can't live with that consequence.

I'd advise them to change their last names and forget about me.

I have no huge savings And my wife owns the house (it's in her name) I'd be homeless.

claim you got hacked now they are extorting you..broken trust or not not sure they would just not talk to you again thats really weird to me are you mormons?

 

[wilmaster04]

your pics/vids are amazing..you're gorgeous btw

 

[alisantre]

Hey there, read the story and I'm so sad and angry at what they're doing to you.

Hope you're safe and sound, please do not think of doing anything extreme. Please don't. Find someone you can talk to about this whole story, even online is fine. You need to vent out and discuss this in a safe place with people who are up to listen and understand you. *hug*

 

[theaveragedude]

claim you got hacked now they are extorting you..broken trust or not not sure they would just not talk to you again thats really weird to me are you mormons?

No we're not Mormons but I can guarantee you that I'd be alone.

'hell hath no fury....'

 

[Cum_is_Great]

Please stop sending payments. This is an extremely common scam that affects people everyday. The fact you paid confirmed their leverage on you. They are most likely bluffing.

Do you have anyone to talk about this with? Is this still on your mind? Are they messaging you still? Send me a message if you need to vent! Please don't do anything rash. Im so sorry this has happened to you.

There are resources and such available to pull down pics online and such if you are worried they will post online. If you habe social media, go private. Be sure to change all your passwords and add 2 factor authentication on accounts that can.

It helps to have someone to chat with to not feel so isolated and scared so please reach out if you need to. Possibly look into seeing a therapist or calling a crisis helpline to vent with a professional or get more advice.

Good luck man, seriously you will be okay. These scammers usually just immediately leave after you say you have the evidence and are sending it to the cyber security of your country. After stating that, block them and stop all contact EVER. Look up other examples of "sextortion" online for more tips and help!

 

[AlextheRedhead]

Don't give them any money. Tell them you have contacted the FBI This is extortion. Sextortion is a crime.

Sounds like you need to make a break and live your life.
Be strong and remember that no one can make you feel like you are not worthy of being loved.
Be yourself and you'll be so much happier.

 

[alphabetspaghetti]

Thank you for your kindness.

I can't talk to anyone about this. I'm actually distraught. They have some pics....I was stupid. It's all I can do to keep my composure around my family. The sword of Damocles is dangling over my head. If this all comes out:

1) I'll be divorced, homeless and most likely my kids, in-laws, will hate me there will be no family at all.

2) I'll be embarrassed to everyone I know.

3) I work as a musician and I also have a day job which will most likely end.

4) worst of all, Ive thought about ending it all, which is worrisome in itself (obviously)

I'm literally stuck in a nightmare.

I should've come to the truth about myself a long time ago.

So youre cheating and looking for sympathy

 

[Empathy]

Tell them you're not sending anything else and that you've already handed your conversations over to the police. I'm sure it's occurred to you that even if you keep sending them money they may still expose you anyway.


Time to take control of your life. It's not what you wanna hear right now I'm sure. But so those people who will turn their backs on you when they find out who you are... screw them. And it probably wouldn't be as bad as you say. Theyd be upset but it's not like they'll never speak to you again and if that did turn out to be true... screw em. Can't let others control your life for ever. Family, friends, spouse and now extortionists and con men. You messed up but life isn't over. Confront the con-men like I said andb perhaps be ready to follow thru. But either way stop paying them. The amount they want will only go up over time as every payment just confirms how desperate you are. And if you spouse puts you out... that just comes with it. I'm assuming you have a job and friends or family members who won't know what's happening maybe someone out of town stay with them for a while get yourself together and life goes on.

All this is easy to say of course cuz it's not happening to me but that's why I'm saying it!! because when you're involved in the situation the emotions get you caught up and you end up making more bad decisions

 

[Crk723]

Tell them you're not sending anything else and that you've already handed your conversations over to the police. I'm sure it's occurred to you that even if you keep sending them money they may still expose you anyway.


Time to take control of your life. It's not what you wanna hear right now I'm sure. But so those people who will turn their backs on you when they find out who you are... screw them. And it probably wouldn't be as bad as you say. Theyd be upset but it's not like they'll never speak to you again and if that did turn out to be true... screw em. Can't let others control your life for ever. Family, friends, spouse and now extortionists and con men. You messed up but life isn't over. Confront the con-men like I said andb perhaps be ready to follow thru. But either way stop paying them. The amount they want will only go up over time as every payment just confirms how desperate you are. And if you spouse puts you out... that just comes with it. I'm assuming you have a job and friends or family members who won't know what's happening maybe someone out of town stay with them for a while get yourself together and life goes on.

All this is easy to say of course cuz it's not happening to me but that's why I'm saying it!! because when you're involved in the situation the emotions get you caught up and you end up making more bad decisions

I agree with this for sure