Funny how I was looking at that other thread where...duh, it is more of a blessing to be hung than not. Of course. Now even though I'm not hung, I am quite handsome or at least have been told that quite a bit and feel really lucky to have kind of a tom cruise like look. I think those good looks get me more than someone who might have a super good secret in their pants. So I'm actually feeling very blessed to have a great set of eyes!
is being good looking a blessing or curse?
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You must rule out any and all confounding factors in order to be able to declare causation, though. For example, there is also research that suggests that good looks are positively correlated with intelligence, which, on the face of it, seems likely to be a stronger causal factor in regard to career advancement.
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Although I don't consider myself to be handsome (tom cruise) and all. I have been told that I am good looking. I am considerably taller than almost everyone I have ever met, being over 7 feet tall. I feel that a lot of people are compelled to speak to me, acknowledge me, and are drawn to be around me. I consider this the alpha effect. I have to say: it is great. I am glad I am so tall every day.
In answer to the question posed in the title. A blessing. I can't see any disadvantages that would outwoutweigh the advantages.
But as a distinction it should be stated that this is only about genetically endowed good looks. Traditional handsomeness. Good skin, well proportioned and symmetrical features. I dont count good looks that can be attained through hard effort such as a well muscled physique. The sort of looks that you can't change just as you can't change your cock size. Anyone can get a nice athletic physique. Not everyone can have the facial beauty of a top model.
But as a distinction it should be stated that this is only about genetically endowed good looks. Traditional handsomeness. Good skin, well proportioned and symmetrical features. I dont count good looks that can be attained through hard effort such as a well muscled physique. The sort of looks that you can't change just as you can't change your cock size. Anyone can get a nice athletic physique. Not everyone can have the facial beauty of a top model.
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...it's a little amazing how many of our celebrities that we consider most attractive, when out of professionally done hair & makeup, really don't look any different from the just moderately attractive people you see every day.
Facial Beauty in celebrity circles is the product of artistry in hair & makeup.
I think studies have shown that after a certain point, being too good-looking can also be a drawback for a women career-wise, though. I think even in general, societally-speaking, it's a more mixed bag for a conventionally beautiful woman, unfortunately, with pitfalls along with the obvious pluses. With men, it seems a less ambiguous complete positive. The only drawback I can even think of is a completely straight man receiving unwanted attention from gay men for his looks, and honestly outside of certain neighborhoods in major cities even that must be a very infrequent issue.
I've received a fair bit of attention for my looks, and I've got to say it's been pretty awesome, haha. It seemed normal for me, whenever I went to parties or internet gatherings (like conventions) or whatever, that I would be able to spend a good amount of time flirting, and often hooking up afterwards. I had a gay male friend, who felt he was unattractive (which it's true he's less stereotypically handsome, perhaps, but I also told him he could work more to improve his appearance in ways he can control, like fitness and grooming/dressing well, especially because he had a nice big broad-shouldered build that had potential, but I know it's not that simple like snapping one's fingers), kind of stare at me in disbelief when we were swapping notes about that stuff because he never really experienced anything like that, and that's one of the times it really sank in for me that, even though I just consider myself nicely attractive and not like model-gorgeous or even close to that, there is a pecking order lookswise. (He would always get annoyed if a server would be flirtatious with me and ignore him whenever we ate out. Unsurprisingly, he ended up drifting away from me, hence all the past tense.) Even in high school there would be notes slipped into my locker or "I always had a crush on you!" confessions written into stuff like signing notebooks at the end of the year or whatever, and even a few guys kind of flirted with me or seemed to approach me subtly, although I was too clueless at the time to capitalize on their interest, sadly, haha. So what I'm saying is that I've by and large enjoyed these experiences, which were brought to me my dint of my Latin/Mediterranean stereotypical dark good looks. So I try to be cognizant of that, even if I know it can't last forever, no matter how much I've lately been coy about my age and making people guess it, haha (I've just hit late 30s, and even if you factor in the extra year or two people take off to be polite when guessing, late 20s-early 30s is the agreed range still, phew heh).
I guess given the nature of this forum is that I should add that the only way I've kind of noticed looks to be a drawback is that my cock can't cash the checks my looks write, haha. I've had very interested guys very obviously lose interest once they saw my barely-average (if that) cock. But, eh. People like my former friend would tell me to cry them a river about that, since at least I still get the dates or the come-ons, so I try not to dwell on that stuff if it occurs.
I've received a fair bit of attention for my looks, and I've got to say it's been pretty awesome, haha. It seemed normal for me, whenever I went to parties or internet gatherings (like conventions) or whatever, that I would be able to spend a good amount of time flirting, and often hooking up afterwards. I had a gay male friend, who felt he was unattractive (which it's true he's less stereotypically handsome, perhaps, but I also told him he could work more to improve his appearance in ways he can control, like fitness and grooming/dressing well, especially because he had a nice big broad-shouldered build that had potential, but I know it's not that simple like snapping one's fingers), kind of stare at me in disbelief when we were swapping notes about that stuff because he never really experienced anything like that, and that's one of the times it really sank in for me that, even though I just consider myself nicely attractive and not like model-gorgeous or even close to that, there is a pecking order lookswise. (He would always get annoyed if a server would be flirtatious with me and ignore him whenever we ate out. Unsurprisingly, he ended up drifting away from me, hence all the past tense.) Even in high school there would be notes slipped into my locker or "I always had a crush on you!" confessions written into stuff like signing notebooks at the end of the year or whatever, and even a few guys kind of flirted with me or seemed to approach me subtly, although I was too clueless at the time to capitalize on their interest, sadly, haha. So what I'm saying is that I've by and large enjoyed these experiences, which were brought to me my dint of my Latin/Mediterranean stereotypical dark good looks. So I try to be cognizant of that, even if I know it can't last forever, no matter how much I've lately been coy about my age and making people guess it, haha (I've just hit late 30s, and even if you factor in the extra year or two people take off to be polite when guessing, late 20s-early 30s is the agreed range still, phew heh).
I guess given the nature of this forum is that I should add that the only way I've kind of noticed looks to be a drawback is that my cock can't cash the checks my looks write, haha. I've had very interested guys very obviously lose interest once they saw my barely-average (if that) cock. But, eh. People like my former friend would tell me to cry them a river about that, since at least I still get the dates or the come-ons, so I try not to dwell on that stuff if it occurs.
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It's simply a waste if others think this about you, but you don't think so, yourself. After all, what you think is truly all that matters.
In any case, what exactly is "good looking"? People have such varied tastes that it's hard for me, personally, to come up with some universal, conventional scale.
In any case, what exactly is "good looking"? People have such varied tastes that it's hard for me, personally, to come up with some universal, conventional scale.
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Is there a blushing smiley? I may have passed one in the list, but I didn't see any.
Anyway, it was a general statement that I thought true. :wink:
Honestly, I'd say that there is most likely a correlation between good looks and ability (more successful people generally get their pick of the litter) and good looks and perceived ability. I'd say that this is because better looking people also generally look "healthier," and that healthier people should be able to outperform unhealthy people.
From my experience as someone that would be considered by many to be in the top 5-10% in physical appearence (been approached by model/talent agents, lots of good comments from friends and strangers), the only real "curse" from being good looking is that people are a lot less likely to emphasize with you because they think you have an awesome and easy life. In short, the only curse that comes with people admiring your looks is that they are a lot less likely to ever feel sorry for you.
In anycase, I would never trade in being good looking. In is also a lot more practical than having a huge penis as not many people are even going to see what you have dangling between your legs. In short, I think that it is a lot more important to look good with "clothes on" than it is to look good with "clothes off"...of course, looking good both ways is even better ;-)
From my experience as someone that would be considered by many to be in the top 5-10% in physical appearence (been approached by model/talent agents, lots of good comments from friends and strangers), the only real "curse" from being good looking is that people are a lot less likely to emphasize with you because they think you have an awesome and easy life. In short, the only curse that comes with people admiring your looks is that they are a lot less likely to ever feel sorry for you.
In anycase, I would never trade in being good looking. In is also a lot more practical than having a huge penis as not many people are even going to see what you have dangling between your legs. In short, I think that it is a lot more important to look good with "clothes on" than it is to look good with "clothes off"...of course, looking good both ways is even better ;-)
I have been told that I am good looking, but I don't think I am. My wife has told me that her friends think I'm good looking, and that some of her co-workers have called me "hot" which I think is hilarious because I can't see it. However, that being said, I do notice that I get a lot of lingering looks from both men and women wherever I go. This happens even more now because I have lost over 40 pounds and have gotten back into shape by hitting the gym hard. I am blessed to look much younger than what I actually am. I'm 47, but most people think I'm in my 20s-early 30s. I was actually mistaken for a student at the university I teach at a couple of months ago which made my freakin' year! A lot of guys my age have let themselves go and look their age. I think my strict diet and healthy lifestyle has a lot to do with me defying looking old.
I think it is a blessing in some ways, but a curse in others. While I enjoy getting noticed by others, it also makes me incredibly self conscious and uncomfortable when people are looking at me. Does it give me any special opportunities that others don't get? Not at all. I will say though that people treat you a lot nicer though. People treat me a lot nicer now than they did when I was overweight and in poor health (AKA looked like crap) about 5 years ago. It's not right, but it's the way society is. We are all guilty of judging others based on the way they look.
I think it is a blessing in some ways, but a curse in others. While I enjoy getting noticed by others, it also makes me incredibly self conscious and uncomfortable when people are looking at me. Does it give me any special opportunities that others don't get? Not at all. I will say though that people treat you a lot nicer though. People treat me a lot nicer now than they did when I was overweight and in poor health (AKA looked like crap) about 5 years ago. It's not right, but it's the way society is. We are all guilty of judging others based on the way they look.
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Understandably so. It would be kinda weird if you were only tall every other day.
When I started out in my business it was hard to get contractors to take me seriously. Some assumed I got my position by sleeping my way to the top. I found that interesting seeing as I'm self-employed, but yeah, I'll go with that. I pleasured myself and gave myself a raise and a promotion.
No, seriously, I began to use my looks to my advantage in my business. When someone calls me "pretty lady" I know that I have the upper hand, because they're hung up on my looks and I can dope slap them with my expertise. I've done it so many times that my reputation precedes me, and any new contractors are already forewarned.
No, seriously, I began to use my looks to my advantage in my business. When someone calls me "pretty lady" I know that I have the upper hand, because they're hung up on my looks and I can dope slap them with my expertise. I've done it so many times that my reputation precedes me, and any new contractors are already forewarned.
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